The Journey of Self Discovery
A Peaceful Home Starts with a Peaceful Heart
The Journey of Self Discovery is a one-on-one coaching program for individuals who want to engage in self-exploration prior to dating, for people who have experienced divorce, or loss of a relationship, as well as others who are in a season of change, transition, or life challenge and wish to cultivate inner peace and make better life choices through self-awareness.
Life Purpose and Life Vision
Why Self-Awareness Is Important
Life is really all about relationships – they are a fundamental part of your life – starting with the relationship you have with yourself, your romantic and family relationships, and relationship you have with friends, and co-workers (not to mention your relationship with beliefs, ideas, institutions, lifestyle choices, and especially God, to name a few you might not have thought of). Relationships are woven into every aspect of your life.
The Journey of Self Discovery, however, focuses on the relationship we tend to neglect the most – the one we have with “self.” It is the root from which everything else in your life develops and will dictate whether you are successful or not. The more self-aware you are, the more fulfilled and happier your life can be.
Why? Because when you become clear about what you want, you will make choices that support your goals. You will consciously and intentionally take the necessary actions needed to achieve exactly what you want.
5 Key Areas of Self-Awareness:
To become more self-aware, you need to develop an understanding of yourself in many areas. Key areas for self-awareness include your beliefs, attitudes, personality traits, personal values, habits, emotions, life vision and purpose, and the psychological needs that drive your behaviors. You need to understand how your mind works, so that you can overcome thoughts, attitudes and behaviors that hold you back from achieving your goals.
While we don't usually change our personalities based on what we learn about ourselves, understanding your personality traits will help you effectively analyze many of your life decisions and can help you make better choices in all areas of life. For example, a highly introverted person would likely experience more stress in a sales position than an extroverted person would. Your choice, as an introvert, would be to either learn the skills and extrovert behaviors necessary for a sales position, or find a job that is more compatible with your personality
2. Values and Life Purpose
Personal values are an inherent part of you and are closely tied to your life purpose - the reason you are here. How you live your life is based on your personal values. When you live life according to your values you feel comfortable and are in alignment with your life purpose. When you fail to live your life in alignment with your values you will feel uncomfortable and may experience guilt, fear, anxiety, etc.
This results in an unsettling feeling of being out of kilter with the world. For example, if one of your personal values is "being in integrity" or "living a spiritual life," it's very easy to lose sight of those values in day-to-day living.
Values are a priority in our lives. They are our compass and when we minimize or forget them because we are too busy or stressed, they become a lower priority and slip from daily importance. Instead, we focus on other things that have less real importance to us. Since few (if any) of those things pertain to what we value most, it's easy to spend too much time on lower priority activities. When we focus on our values and prioritize them, we are more likely to accomplish what we consider most important. That results in a sense of fulfillment.
3. Habits, Beliefs, Attitudes
Our habits are the behaviors that we repeat routinely and often unconsciously or automatically that are based on our beliefs or attitudes. Because we are typically unaware of our beliefs, attitudes, and habits we will not be conscious of those that are unproductive and sabotage our goals. Awareness of our thoughts, patterns, and habits will help us replace sabotaging habits with those that are productive and support our goals. Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
Maslow and others have identified a variety of psychological needs that drive our behaviors such as our need for esteem, affection, achievement, control and power. By understanding your needs and how they influence your behaviors, you will be better equipped to understand how they affect your interpersonal relationships. Needs cause motivation; and when needs are unmet, they result in an unresolved "issue" that can cause frustration, conflict and stress.
Understanding your own feelings, what causes them, and how they impact your thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and actions is emotional self-awareness. Someone with high emotional self-awareness understands the internal process associated with emotional experiences and, as a result, has greater control over them. This is especially important when dealing with negative feelings such as guilt, anger, humiliation, etc, that can shift your mindset and sabotage your goals.
Being clear about who you are and what you want and need to be happy and fulfilled is the key to living an amazing and conscious life. The Journey of Self Discovery is a 3-month coaching program that utilizes a workbook and weekly written exercises. If you make a commitment to doing the necessary work, this program will empower you to make choices that are in alignment with your dreams and life goals.
Put in the time and effort that is required. YOU are definitely worth it!